Expectations – What are you expecting in 2024?
What are your 2024 Expectations?
Expectations are one hell of a thing! I have lived with having expectations my entire life and have also assessed how and who to have expectations of, for that to be worked in a more healthy and controlled way. However, having Expectations in 2024 can really allow you to be more focused on where you serve and place your energy. If this year has taught you anything, just look at the expectations you have put on yourself and others and did it get you to where you wanted to go? When we use our expectations to control other people can be so exhausting, so let us get into the conversation and recognize what we can do differently.
Expectations, firstly, are not a bad thing. As social media has provided insight with Meme’s and posts highlighting what you should expect of yourself and other, but do not live outside of yourself, agree, like and then try and apply it. Reason being, it’s what you been given without a full personal self-assessment in your life of what is working and what hasn’t been working well to identify what will be useful in terms of setting new expectations for balance in your life.
How do you do this effectively? If you were to look at what you are happy with in your life, for example you can create two columns;
Setting expectations of self to live a fuller life from a place of wholeness is one of the best things you can do for yourself and recognize the power in having a healthy mind, and balanced life. In order to reach your goals, you have to be clear about your expectation of yourself and also holding yourself accountable is so powerful it will allow you to flourish in ways that may amaze you! And that, Coachee is what I want for you.
On the flip side, the struggle is creating expectations for others. When we have expectations of our friends. I have struggled with this a lot, and it has brought a lot of unnecessary heartache. What do I mean? Well, when you see a friend who is super smart, has all the skills and also you can see how they are misusing their time, resources and their energy on the wrong people, you feel frustrated for them? I know, it’s hard to watch. I’ve been there and we voluntarily make this person’s issues our issues. But who asked you?? No one!! Yes, this is a hard pill to swallow, but no one asked you for anything, and you have taken it upon yourself by putting expectations on them that you have created.
Creating expectations of others, where you were not given permission or even discussed with them if that is a possibly can strain relationships so my biggest tip here…..is lovingly, MIND YOUR OWN DARN BUSINESS!! Yes, I said it!
If you are uncomfortable with how a loved one in your life is making choices, the natural and loving thing to do is ask if they are okay and ask permission if you can offer your perspective as some things seem to concern you a little.
Now, let me warn you! This can go one of two ways, so it’s important to have both expectations of a positive and negative response in relation to this. If the response is negative, they are not ready to hear the expectations you have set up for them in your head and without permission. And/or, you have hit a nerve which resonates with them that is actually blowing their shit out, wide open and they are not ready to face it. So, leave it alone, and respect their space. My advice, do not broach the subject going forward as they have boundaries and consider how you would feel if your boundaries were crossed?
If the response is positive, they have done some work themselves, around their own expectations and can welcome some reassurance and support to meet expectations and may ask for an ‘Accountability Partner’ which may be a gift to you to help them meet their own expectations, needs and goals, and in some cases vice versa. This type of experience is simply called supportive. Nothing more or nothing less. When this happens you can potentially both share your expectations of yourself on a monthly basis which may include your ‘ME TIME’ day or not. Your choice. Show each other tools that you can use and when you do it together this is truly where dream work makes the teamwork!
I hope that I have made a difference to your day and your paradigms on your journey to understanding how to navigate expectations of self, and others making this one of your Best Friends! Let your spirit shine in 2024.
Wishing you success, love and light!!
DMC.
